Support Networks Are A Must For Change

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The New Year often brings big life changes, or, in some cases, the thoughtof big life changes with no action. What is it that gives people the motivation to actually make the change they are looking for? And, on the other hand, what is it that deters people from change they crave?

One of my must-read books is Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés. Reading it again this week I came across this passage:

“If you are striving to do something you value, it is so important to surround yourself with people who unequivocally support your work.” Put more bluntly, she writes: “Anyone who does not support your art, your life, is not worth your time.” 

And then this one . . . 

“It is deadly to be without a confidante, without a guide, without even a tiny cheering section.”

When making a big transition, or launching a new venture, many of my clients intentionally create a cocoon surrounding themselves with positivity. They cultivate a cheering section and figure out what do to about naysayers and people who don’t support their dreams. Doing both is critical.   

Having a support network can be what makes or breaks your motivation to continue moving forward. Without support, many of my clients find it difficult to persevere when challenges come up. When building a support network, it’s helpful to consider questions like these: Who is in it with you—for real? How often do you talk? How do you exchange support? How do you celebrate success? The answers to these questions give the venture an added richness, keep you focused, and insulate you from detractors.  

Dealing with the naysayers can be challenging.  Oftentimes, the most negative people end up being people we care the most about—friends, relatives and colleagues. They may mean well and have valid points. And yet, they can still shake your confidence and get you off track. In order to reach your goals, you may need to avoid them, distance from them, or limit conversation topics.  

What do you have planned for 2019? And who is in your cheering section?

If you need help making a transition in 2019, contact Embark Counseling today.